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Bringing new life into this planet is SCARY. From the weight of new responsibilities to the loss of freedom, new fathers often struggle in this transitional phase. Fam Life host Phil Gomez speaks to the journey of fatherhood in this solocast, bringing in the rites of passage model to help men make sense of this massive shift. Phil speaks to the needs of the new and prospective father – urging men to utilize community for collective problem solving, create a vision of the father they would like to be, and plan for what they cannot see. 


  • [06:20] How to transcend fears about having your first child.
  • [09:50] What is severance and how can you benefit from this phase?
  • [10:58] Why new fathers fear losing freedom.
  • [14:15] Can you name what within you needs to die for you to be better? 
  • [17:21] Why you should have examples of positive models of fatherhood.
  • [21:20] How to show up powerfully and in service during the actual birth.
  • [24:01] Why you are constantly evolving as a father.
  • [27:20] How embodying your virtues will always look different in action.
  • [31:01] Why talking to other fathers is instrumental to learning.
  • [31:31] Why utilizing community to collectively problem solve is vital to incorporation.

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