“Free Yourself From Your Father’s Expectations”


Why does David Deida advocate for men to live as if their fathers’ were dead? Without voicing all of our grievances from boyhood to our fathers in a compassionate clearing conversation, those patterns will HAUNT us for the rest of our lives. Societal programming has failed men and now it’s time to change long-standing patterns of emotional containment and repression. Listen in for Phil’s wise words of encouragement on initiating this powerful exchange!  


  • [03:20] “Live as if your father were dead” – Way of The Superior Man by David Deida
  • [04:45] Are your father’s expectations echoing in your head?
  • [09:58] What does your self-talk look like when the seas get stormy?
  • [13:10] Has societal programming set men up to fail in relationships and communication?
  • [16:01] Why this type of cord cutting with our father’s brings us closer together.
  • [21:18] Why manhood is claimed, not given.
  • [26:18] How to navigate and structure a clearing conversation with your father.
  • [30:09] Why compassion is key to understanding your father/son dynamic.
  • [35:27] Why this powerful conversation is the best gift you can give.

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